When You Change Inside, The Outside Has No Choice

WHY: I Rebuilt My Entire Reality From The Inside Out

Five years ago, I had a life that looked good on paper. Coffee company. Marriage. The house, the cars, the two-car garage. Everything the program told me to get.

And I was miserable.

Then COVID hit. My marriage ended. My sister took her life. And I had to face a question I'd been avoiding my entire existence:

Who am I when everything external is stripped away?

That's when I sold the coffee company. That's when I stopped running. That's when I started the real work—the internal work.

And here's what I discovered:

Read that again.

Everything internal is cause. Everything external is effect.

If you want to change your external world—your relationships, your career, your circumstances, your entire reality—you have to change your internal world first. You have to change your thoughts. Your beliefs. Your programs.

Because when you change your internal world, your external world has no choice. It will dissolve. Physical things will dissolve. And your external world will be rebuilt accordingly.

This isn't metaphor. This isn't wishful thinking. This is physics. This is how reality works.

You are a creator. You're created in the image of God, and you create constantly. Every thought is creating your reality. Every belief is building your world.

Most people are looking for external things to change their life. A new job. A new relationship. A new city. A new car. New circumstances.

But it's all internal. Everything you want to change starts inside.

WHAT: The Internal-External Practice

This practice has three parts, and they work together:

Part 1: Recognize You're Creating Your Reality

Not "the universe is creating it for you." Not "circumstances are happening to you." Not "other people are making you feel this way."

You. You are creating it.

That woman I met at the train station in Sweden? She was focused on Palestine. On war. On suffering. She was carrying that reality in her body, creating that feeling, living in that story.

And I asked her: "What if you choose something else? What if you focus on what's beautiful? The flowers. The people. The interactions. This moment."

She could. She can. We all can.

You're creating your exact reality. The question is: are you creating it consciously or unconsciously?

Part 2: Observe The Programs Running

We run off programs we learned from childhood. Get a job. Go to school. Get married. Get the house. Two-car garage. Retirement. Death.

These programs run automatically. They're like background apps on your phone, draining your battery without you even knowing.

The practice is: notice them. When you catch yourself thinking "I should do this" or "I have to do that" or "That's just how things are"—stop. Ask: "Is that true? Or is that a program?"

• Get a job? Says who?
• Be practical? Says who?
• Play it safe? Says who?
• Don't stand in a train station with a sign? Says who?

Question everything. Especially the thoughts that feel like absolute truth.

Part 3: Get Out Of Your Head, Into Your Heart

Your mind lives in the past and future. Your mind analyzes, worries, plans, regrets. Your mind runs the programs.

Your heart lives now. Your heart feels. Your heart connects. Your heart knows.

HOW: The Daily Internal Shift

Morning: Set Your Internal State (5 minutes)

Before you touch your phone, before you start reacting to the external world:

1. Stillness (from Part 1): Keep your body still. Observe your mind. What thoughts are already running? Are they yesterday's thoughts? New thoughts? Do they benefit you?
2. Gut Check (from Part 2): Put your hand on your stomach. Ask: "What does today want from me?" Feel the answer.
3. Heart Space: Put your hand on your heart. Ask: "What do I want to create today?" Not achieve. Create. Feel into it.

That's it. Five minutes. You've set your internal state before the external world gets a vote.

Throughout The Day: The Reminder Practice

You'll forget. You'll get pulled back into programs, into reaction, into your head. That's normal.

The practice is the reminder:

When something happens externally that you don't like—someone cuts you off in traffic, you get a rude email, something breaks, plans change—pause.

Ask yourself: "What am I creating internally right now that's matching this external reality?"

Not to blame yourself. To take your power back.

• If you're creating anger internally, you'll see more things to be angry about externally.
• If you're creating scarcity internally, you'll see more lack externally.
• If you're creating love internally, you'll see more love reflected back.

This is the work. Catching yourself. Redirecting. Choosing a new internal state.

Evening: The Reflection (2 minutes)

Before bed:

1. "What did I create today?"
2. "Was I in my head or my heart?"
3. "What internal state do I want to wake up in tomorrow?"

Write it down if you want. Or just think it. The point is: you're taking ownership. You're recognizing yourself as creator, not victim.

THE TRUTH: You Are Not Broken

Here's what I need you to hear: nothing is wrong with you.

I spent so long thinking something was wrong with me. Why can't I just be happy with the life I built? Why do I feel so lost? Why do I keep running the same patterns?

But nothing was wrong. I was just running programs that weren't mine. I was living from my head, not my heart. I was looking for external things to fix internal problems.

The moment I realized I am creating this—not in a "blame yourself" way, but in a "holy shit, I have power" way—everything shifted.

If I'm creating this reality, I can create a different one. If my thoughts are creating my world, I can change my thoughts. If I'm running programs, I can install new programs.

IMPACT: The World Dissolves And Rebuilds

When I changed my internal world—when I decided "I'm going to build people up, I'm going to spread love, I'm going to be the change"—my external world had no choice.

The coffee company? Gone. Sold. The marriage? Dissolved. The house, the cars, the whole structure? Rebuilt.

And new things came. Sweden. The signs. The train station. Conversations that changed lives. This movement. You reading this right now.

That didn't happen because I hustled externally. It happened because I shifted internally.

I became a new person internally, and my external world reorganized to match.

The Three Practices Together

We've covered a lot in these three articles. Let me bring it together:

These three practices work together. The morning stillness helps you see what you're creating internally. The gut check helps you make aligned decisions. The internal-external awareness helps you take full ownership of your reality.

This is Think Nice Now.

Not just positive affirmations. Not just feel-good messages. But actual practices that change your thoughts, which change your internal world, which changes your external world, which changes your life.

Think nice about yourself. Think nice about others. Watch your entire reality shift.